Updated: Jun 6, 2019
What does love mean to you?
When I was young, I asked my mom “How would I know that I am in love?” My mom could not really answer it. I could not understand at the time. As I matured, in different relationships and I started to love myself just the way I was I finally understood what unconditional love was.
We have so many versions of love: loving your spouse, partner, children, siblings, parents, pets, and so many other types that we get all confused, over analysis things and complicate matters.
In my opinion there is only one type of love, the love that comes from your heart. I think of it this way, I have only one heart, therefore when I love someone or something it comes from my heart, nowhere else.
When we look in the mirror and see our reflection, we love ourselves just the way we are, unconditional. When our mind gets in the way, we see the parts that we would like to change and then we stress and anxiety seeps in, generally because we compare ourselves to others.
I see it this way, we are all unique human beings, and have our own characteristics and features. We have our own unique thumb prints and ears, so why do we compare ourselves to others? Why is it so important to be the same, instead of being unique?
It is easier to say than to do, so when you catch yourself comparing yourself to others, acknowledge that thought and with a smile on your face, say to yourself, out loud or internally “I am an amazing person and I love myself unconditionally”. The more you say it to yourself the better you will feel about yourself and eventually believe it and your perception of life will change. You will notice that you feel a warm sensation in your heart area and you feel good saying it. If you want to scream it out, do it, no one will stop you, it is how you feel in the moment. It is better to let it out than hold on to the feeling.
I believe what you put out to the world is what you will receive. Send out love and blessing to everyone and love and blessing with come back. When you love yourself unconditionally, it is easier to love others for who they are, with all their unique characteristics and features.
So I set a challenge to you, write down the date of when you start the list and write down 5 things you love about yourself, your unique features. It could be small or huge. Each day add 5 more, you could repeat some and add more descriptive words to them. By the end of the week, you will see, how amazing unique you are and you starting to love yourself. Continue with the list as long as you want to.
Life is amazing, keep things simple and stop over complicate things. Send out love from your heart and blessing to everyone. Surprisingly love and blessing will bounce back and life will be easier. Why wait, start today, this very minute.
I have finished reading these following amazing book about love, check them out on Amazon. There are many other books that I have not mentioned below that have had an impact on my life, to better understand myself, as well as love myself unconditionally.
Reality Unveiled: The Hidden Keys of Existence that will transform your life (and the world) written by Ziad Masri. In Part II, there are exercises about loving yourself and finally sending out love to the whole world. I have read so many books about spiritually and most of them mention that love is the one emotion that can bring light into darkness and change the world positively.
Mirror Work written by Louise Hay. Each exercise gets you closer to loving yourself, just the way you are.
Life and Health Coach